5 Factors That Can Compromise The Relationship
We almost all agree that being in love and having a relationship in which you feel appreciated and loved is one of the greatest pleasures that life offers us.
Yet, although everything goes perfectly with our sweetheart, it is possible that some external factors can crack the communication between the couple and cause some problems.
The reasons are different. For example, we may find ourselves facing the jealousy of old flames who would like to maintain the same relationship with us as there was before.
On other occasions, however, it could be about loved ones who would like more time and attention from us, without realizing that in this way they are damaging our relationship as a couple.
1. The mother-in-law and the couple relationship
It is now widespread the idea that mothers have the habit of always interfering in the couple’s relationship of their children. It is clear that such an attitude can make the situation really difficult. And if it is not our parents, but those of the partner, things can become even more complicated.
On the one hand, there is the desire to focus a lot on our relationship, give it the value it deserves and support the partner. On the other hand there is the love for a mother who will always be a very special and important person for us.
In these cases it is better to arm yourself with patience and try to understand the mother’s point of view: how will we behave when our son or daughter is engaged?
If we can be assertive and always behave with respect, we will be able to build an excellent relationship even with the mother of our better half. Obviously we will have to be able to establish well-defined limits on which not to yield. Some mothers-in-law are more difficult than others: in these cases, patience is essential.
2. The work colleague
In this case it happens that we give our work colleagues the best of us : at work, in fact, we are always in a good mood, willing to give our support, to go out for lunch together and have a laugh.
When we start a new relationship, we notice a big difference between the workplace and the home environment, and this change is reflected in our attitude. When we get home, we start thinking about the bills to pay, the jobs to be done, and the fact that our partner isn’t always in a good mood.
In this circumstance it would be better to avoid talking about a particular colleague or seeing him alone. Jealousy is a thorny and delicate subject, and maybe our partners are not annoyed by our outings with colleagues: it may be just a matter of finding a balance between the two, to avoid anyone feeling excluded.
3. The best friend and the couple relationship
Let’s face it: we cannot avoid feeling a bit of jealousy for our partner’s best friend and certainly the same happens to him too. Especially when we see that he feels much more comfortable and free talking to her than to us.
At this point millions of doubts begin to assail us that will make “the best friend” one of the responsible for the sinking of our relationship, because by dint of thinking about it, we come to convince ourselves that there is something underneath.
To avoid this drastic scenario, the best thing is to establish good communication with the partner, which allows us to tell him sincerely and without fear what bothers us, avoiding creating a tense situation a priori, without the possibility of clarification.
If we can explain to him what happens to us, he will certainly be able to find the right limit so as not to cause us any suffering. And let’s not forget that this applies to everyone: we too must know how to give our partner his time and space.
4. Pets
Strange as it may seem, such a harmless bond as one with a pet can ruin our relationship as a couple. Usually this happens when the animal is not of both, but of only one.
The furry friend is the recipient of unconditional love that cannot be compared with that of a couple. It may be that one of the two partners would prefer to pay their attention to their pet instead of worrying about the daily chores that each couple has to attend to.
The alarm bell that this bond is cracking the couple’s relationship goes off when, for example, too much space is given to the animal to the detriment of the partner or when the cuddles and gestures of affection are dedicated more to the animal than to partner.
5. The coach and the relationship of the couple
The movement of the body and the release of hormones that exercise involves allows the endorphins to enter the circulation. This is why the gym is one of the places where it is easier for a flirtation to arise, unless, of course, there is already a serious relationship.
It may be that sharing certain moments with your personal trainer triggers our partner’s jealousy. To maintain a healthy relationship, it is advisable to immediately make it clear that it is a purely professional relationship.
It is not at all necessary to change personal trainers : trust, in a couple relationship, is essential. A good option, rather, would be to invite your partner to come to the gym with us – what better way to show our better half that the coach is nice to everyone?
Limits and trust: the keys to a good relationship
When we start a serious relationship as a couple and decide to link our life to that of another person, the latter will become an integral part of our family, of our world, to the point of making us prioritize the time we spend in his company.
It is true that we cannot forget about work, children and daily chores, but it is good to remember that we have chosen a partner or a partner to share our life.
Therefore, if we do not want the factors mentioned in this article to distance us from those who deserve our time and attention, we must be able to set limits and make trust and communication our flag.
