Because It Is Difficult To Love Someone Who Does Not Love You

Those who do not love themselves believe they are not worthy of the love of others. His fear of abandonment makes him more prone to loneliness. 

Falling in love with someone who doesn’t love themselves  can be really difficult. The main reason is that when you love someone, you always want to remind them how amazing they are. For someone who doesn’t love themselves, however, it is difficult to accept these kinds of comments.

People who don’t love each other usually reject compliments  without realizing how painful it can be for others. For this reason, we are all looking for a partner who knows how to value himself.

However, the above is not the only reason that makes it difficult to love those who do not love themselves. To follow other reasons:

Communication is difficult

Communication can become a real odyssey if you are with someone who does not know how to love himself.

These people usually misinterpret what is said and always understand the worst.

For many, it is very frustrating to experience such situations. In most cases, those who don’t love themselves project their flaws onto their partner.

It is difficult to take care of those who do not care about themselves

For any person, it can be frustrating to love someone who doesn’t love themselves and doesn’t care about themselves. This turns  spontaneous phrases like “you look great today” into an argument due to the low self-esteem of one of the members.

Due to their insecurity issues, the person is likely to start berating you for everything you say.

It is tiring to waste your time and energy trying to make the person you love smile and not get the desired result. After all, no matter how hard you try, he is unlikely to trust you or value your words.

People who don’t love each other tend to be too dependent 

It is normal, in fair measure, that if your partner is sad or negative, they can trust and count on you to be encouraged and to get better. You certainly expect the same from the other person.

This stops being healthy when you depend on your partner to be happy. Extreme addiction can lead a person to be too suffocating.  

You will start thinking about leaving him. Over time, you will become convinced that it is not such a bad idea and the reason for its happiness will fade.

Those who do not love themselves usually refuse the help of others 

When you love someone, you want to help them find their well-being. However, you must remember that his rejection of himself has existed before he knew you, which indicates that he does not want to receive help from anyone.

This will complicate matters as even if you believe that sooner or later they will accept your help, in reality it is very unlikely to happen.

You must remember that people cannot be changed. No one is capable of transforming its essence to be who we want or get what we expect. 

Trust in the relationship will fail

When someone doesn’t love themselves, they don’t understand why other people love them. He is always worried that his partner “notices” who he really is and that he will leave him.

This attitude makes it very difficult to establish a bond of trust with your partner.  

A person who is perpetually distressed or worried that the other is going away usually engages in negative behavior. Ironically, it will be this fear that will push the partner away.

What to know if you love someone who doesn’t love themselves

If you find yourself next to someone who does not love themselves, it means that you are a loving and protective person. However, don’t think that one conversation will fix everything.

If you are really willing to help your partner not to refuse, you need to know that, first of all, the person in question must really want to change and accept the help offered.

You have to be careful, because when you feel physically and emotionally exhausted from the relationship, it is probably a situation you need to get out of.

In this case, you need to ask yourself a few questions:

• Do I really believe my partner can change?
• Is my partner aware of my dissatisfaction?
• Are you really interested in changing?

When you have the answers, you will realize if it is worth keeping trying.

After all, you don’t have to sacrifice your happiness with a person who doesn’t want to stop being unhappy.

Remember that you are solely responsible for your happiness, just as your partner must be responsible for his or her.