Spoiled Child, How To Recognize Him?
Poorly educating a child can make him become spoiled, disrespectful of the rules, make him believe he can always do what he wants and not take on his responsibilities. Being a spoiled child can have serious consequences in adult life.
For this reason, today we are going to talk about some common behaviors of a spoiled child , which will help us understand how to help them and if we need to take some precautions with our children so that these episodes do not happen again.
Behaviors of a spoiled child
The circle of whims
Whims are a tool that every spoiled child uses, because he knows that in most cases he will get what he wants. And this happens because they exploit the sense of guilt and shame experienced by the adult.
Let’s take an example:
A child is in the supermarket with his father and he wants me to buy him some chocolate. The father says no. The child insists and, seeing that he will not get what he wants, he throws himself on the ground and starts screaming and kicking.
His father scolds him, but he notices the looks of other people at the supermarket and begins to feel guilty. She blushes with shame, and since she can’t stand it anymore, she says to the child: “Yes, take the chocolate, just stop it”.
What happened? The child managed to manipulate his father by making him feel ashamed and guilty. At the same time, the adult lost his authority because he succumbed to the behavior of the child. This can also trigger another attitude.
Because the parent realizes that the child can get what he wants, he sometimes plays at bribing him, for example, he wants him to behave well or fulfill his responsibilities (such as doing a homework at school).
The lack of limits in the home
Setting boundaries in the home does not mean that parents are too hard or hard on their children, that they will hurt them or not love them. On the contrary, limits are necessary.
But for them to be effective, they must be respected to the end. It is not enough to set a limit and allow it to be exceeded in a circumstance such as the one mentioned above.
Parents must be categorical in the decisions they make. If they linger in a certain situation, all the work would be wasted. If we set a limit such as, for example, “today we don’t buy chocolate”, it means that today we don’t buy, full stop. We need to be consistent, regardless of the crying, tantrums, and even shame we may feel.
A spoiled child needs to know that adults are serious. He must learn to accept a “no” as one and that he will have no choice but to accept. Furthermore, when limits are set from the start, it is difficult to disobey or even show hostility towards parents.
A spoiled child is not born like that, it becomes
A spoiled child is not spoiled from birth. It is often the result of the parents’ behavior, of their permissiveness, but also of the selfishness that the little one can begin to show. Finally, his being provocative will lead him to behave worse and worse.
He will end up insulting his parents, controlling them and exercising a power he shouldn’t have. But, above all, he will not be able to value what he has, he will want more and more, trying to satisfy his needs and desires, but not knowing how to really appreciate them.
A spoiled child can become a very unpleasant adult, harmful to others and, most importantly, to himself. Children need limits. Parents should act as such, never allowing disrespect or manipulation.
Everything we do to prevent children from becoming spoiled will help them to be better people in the future and to be able to maintain healthier relationships. Let’s always remember that.
